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He tells Amelia Heathman about modern love. Muzmatch is often dubbed the Muslim Tinder but Younas is not so happy with the comparison. It uses some typical dating-app structures, such as swipes and likes, but instead of focusing on casual hook-ups it is all about helping Muslims find someone to marry. Many Muslims are expected to marry young and to someone of the same faith. Younas quit his job as an investment banker and spent six months working hour days to create Muzmatch in his bedroom. Six months after launching, the app had produced its first marriage. The results speak for themselves: Muzmatch has more than one and a half million members and some 15, couples have got married after meeting on it.

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Simran remembers exactly how she felt when the text flashed up on her phone: the short pang of terror that washed over her body, the sickness rising in her stomach. The text was from her mother. At the time, Simran was 21 years old, a British Hindu whose parents were born in India. She had been secretly dating a Muslim boy for three years. She wasn’t sure if she’d been found out — if that’s what her mother’s text was about — so she immediately denied any wrongdoing and asked her mum to explain what was going on.

Internally, her mind was racing; she’d heard from friends of friends whose parents had disowned them for dating a Muslim.

He insists on keeping the relationship as secret as possible. Claiming that he loves you with all his heart and wants the best for you in life, he still.

In between religious fanatics who use hijab as a way of categorizing women into good girl vs. And in the middle of it is your average hijab-wearing girl who just wants to listen to some trap music, contour like a Jenner, and not be asked her political views or ISIS every time she leaves her house. Can a girl breathe — or better yet, can she get a date? Sometimes, but the results can be cringeworthy. When you wear a hijab, something as simple as getting a cup of coffee in the morning can turn into a political statement, and navigating romance isn’t much easier.

Cue me, a little vegetarian hijabi entering his life. We somehow dated for two years, but the first time I had Christmas dinner with his family, his father asked me what I thought about Hamas. How about you just ask me what I want to be when I grow up instead? Wanna hook up tomorrow in the library? Here I am at my first week of university after spending 12 years at an all-girls school, thinking I am finally going to have my Princess Diaries moment, and instead I get this fool. Before I can answer him, he sends a second message.

And no, my Prince Charming has still not arrived. I met him at 18, liked him, and thought of him as a brother. We picked up Chinese food together, shared hoodies, and went out dancing.

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In Saudi Arabia’s rigid past, religious police once swooped down on rose sellers and anyone peddling red paraphernalia around Valentine’s Day, but now a more open — albeit risky — dating culture is taking root. Pursuing relationships outside of marriage in the conservative Islamic kingdom once amounted to a death wish, and would-be Romeos resorted to pressing phone numbers up against their car window in hope of making contact with women. Now a sweeping liberalization drive — which has rendered the religious police toothless and allowed gender mixing like never before — has made it easier for young couples to meet in cafes and restaurants.

Well-heeled millennials also hunt for romantic liaisons via Twitter and Snapchat, and apps such as Swarm — designed to log places the user visits but often repurposed to look for dates. Pre-marital relationships remain a cultural minefield though in a country steeped in Islamic tradition and where matchmaking is typically overseen by family elders, forcing couples to keep unsanctioned romance under wraps. Covert dating operations illustrate how Saudi Arabia’s mainly young population is often compelled to lead dual lives in the pursuit of social liberties that may outstrip the kingdom’s capacity for change.

Samirah, a year-old finance executive in the Saudi capital, felt a flutter of nerves when her boyfriend’s mother stumbled upon a handwritten birthday card and gift she gave him — and that risked her own family finding out. In a society where family honor is often tied to female chastity, the revelation would have provoked fury from her family and jeopardized their months-long courtship that began through common friends.

Her boyfriend managed to deflect his mother, but the scare prompted the young couple yearning for more freedom to plan a forbidden rendezvous — a long weekend in Dubai disguised as a business trip. In scenes unimaginable until just two years ago, women have been seen swaying on the shoulders of men at music concerts as the kingdom tears down the walls of sex segregation. But while the religious police have stepped back, the internal policing within Saudi families and society at large has not stopped, highlighting the limits of a Western-style liberalization drive in a deeply conservative country.

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I started to drink secretly, which increased when I left home. I distinctly remember being in a club, texting my mum goodnight whilst downing shots.

Updated April 18, Women apply for most Islamic divorces in Australia, but imams often refuse to grant them. Muslim leaders have condemned domestic violence, though some still teach that husbands can control their wives. Other articles in this series have examined Islam , mainstream Protestant denominations , the Catholic Church , Christian clergy wives , Hindu and Sikh communities , and Jewish divorce laws. I taped it thinking no one would believe me.

Once inside the building, a glass-fronted office space wedged between an electrical store and a denture clinic on a sleepy stretch of Sydney Road, Noor sat down nervously before a panel of five male imams and carefully recounted the years of physical, emotional and financial abuse she had suffered at the hands of her husband, who had recently breached the intervention order she had taken out against him.

He often criticised and yelled at her in front of the kids, she told ABC News, for petty reasons — for example, if she didn’t prepare food to his liking. For a long time, she believed his violence was her fault. He also repeatedly threatened to take another wife, which hurt and distressed Noor, not only because they were already struggling financially. Muslims in Australia may have a civil divorce, but if they do not also obtain a religious divorce, they are considered still married in Islamic law — and in the eyes of their community.

Getting an Islamic divorce, however, can be a difficult and protracted process, especially for women, who face stricter requirements for initiating divorce than men, depending on the laws of their cultural community. While a husband is allowed to divorce his wife at any time, without cause, often imams will not grant a woman divorce without her husband’s consent, or proof she has legitimate grounds for an annulment which, depending on the legal school, can include infidelity, physical, financial or emotional harm, and sexual dysfunction.

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It depends on the type of parent you ask. Muslim parents seem to fall into four different categories on the subject of dating. Worried parents are certain that dating must be avoided at all costs. Thoughtful parents see themselves as visionaries who understand the need to establish institutions within the American Muslim community to properly deal with the issue of dating. Worried parents were aware that their children may perceive them as strict.

They felt that this in no way compromised the level of communication between parent and child since children regardless of age were to obey their wishes.

I know he feels pressure to try to marry me before someone else does, but I always reassure him there isn’t anyone else I would ever agree to be.

We plan to live together and eventually get married. Although we have no issues with our differing religions and backgrounds, his parents do. When his parents found out about me shortly after we began dating, they threatened to kick him out and cut him off. Instead of standing up for our relationship, he told them that we broke up. Is it selfish for me to want him to stand up for me and for us? Where should I draw the line? When should I walk away? Cheryl Strayed: Your boyfriend may tell you he wants to marry you, Dirty Little Secret, but his actions tell a different story.

Perhaps he needed his parents to pay his college tuition, or his status as a full-time student made it difficult to cover the expense of renting a place of his own. Or maybe he opted to avoid stirring the pot on behalf of a relationship that might turn out to be short-term. Now, more than two years in, those possible explanations are no longer valid. You are. This spells doom. I realize you love your boyfriend.

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Marriage is a social institution as old as the human race itself. It may be defined as a relation between a man and a woman which is recognised by custom or law and involves certain rights and duties, both in the case of the parties entering the Union, and in case of the children born of it. Marriage has thus two main functions to perform: it is the means adopted by human society for regulating relations between the sexes; and it furnishes the mechanism by means of which the relations of a child to the community is determined.

Can Muslims date? What even is dating nowadays!? Then my girls and I turned into super secret spies and detectives as we deciphered.

Sarah officially started her professional career by working in a small news agency in her city. As a fresh graduate she was profoundly happy about her new job. She felt as if her four years of hard work had finally started to pay off. Throughout her time at University she looked at couples roaming around and taking care of each other. At her office her thinking started to change a little as she genuinely began to develop feelings for her boss.

She felt as if he too liked her in the sincere sense. They became good friends and occasionally went for lunch together. The boss told Sarah that he will marry her after 3 years. Over a brief period of 15 days her affiliation grew stronger. However, something irked her and that was his demand for physical contact. Both of them agreed on remaining friendly colleagues, but even as professional friends the boss tried to provoke her for an illegal relation by requesting Sarah to meet at a private and secure place.

This was an eye-opener for her and she realized that someone truly in love with her would never provoke her for such things. She knew that she had fallen for the wrong person.

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The phrase goes: ‘Muslims don’t date, we marry’,” says Shahzad Younas, founder and CEO of the Muslim matching app Muzmatch.

Bella Hadid, Dr. Oz and DJ Khaled. What do these celebrities all have in common? They’re Muslim. There are more than 1 billion Muslims in the world including some of the most popular and successful actors, rappers, models, sports heroes, political activists and more. Keep reading to see what these celebrities had to say about being a part of the Islamic faith. Oz Show. Oz explained that his father comes from Turkey’s “Quran Belt” and his mother was a secular Turk.

The former One Direction band member was raised Muslim by his mother, who converted to the religion, and his British-Pakistani father. In the singer told Vogue that he no longer considers himself to be a follower of the Islamic faith. Hadid later told Porter magazine that she protested in honor of her heritage and her religion.

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The series describes, with tart precision and irony, the lives of young American Muslims who may drink, have sex, and believe in God—and who keep much of their lives secret from their parents and their friends. Youssef plays the title character, Ramy, who is unclear about what type of Muslim he is or ought to be.

He dates non-Muslim women but hides his religion. Put off less by his beliefs than by his deceit, she walks away.

Experience: We met on a flight, shortly after September He sat down next to me and we discovered we were from the same city, had been to.

Muslim girls are ambitious, quirky, fun, driven, smart, brilliant, kind, virtuous — you know, just like other women. Dating is a minefield for any poor soul but when you add religion to the mix the pool becomes a lot smaller. For Muslims, religion means no sex before marriage, among other things. Female Muslims have been able to form well-rounded personalities which comes from being matured at a young age. Young Muslim girls learn responsibility, independence, self-awareness in their childhood, whereas some Muslim boys are largely sheltered and have things done for them.

So sometimes male Muslims end up in the standard money-making roles, banking, finance, or other respected roles such as medicine or law.

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Iqbal was ashamed that she kept her 3-month old relationship a secret. Her mother was more worried that the photos did not reflect well on the family. The fact that Iqbal had been sneaking around seemed to come second. Whether in response to an Islamic tradition that prohibits dating or to the desire to fit in with their peers, some Muslim teens are having relationships in secret.

There are more than 1 billion Muslims in the world including some of converted to Islam in to marry Egyptian actress Faten Hamama.

Phew, someone finally gets it! Agnes was my alibi. Their plan for me is to find a Pakistani boy to marry as soon as I finish medical school, yet they disapprove of modern dating and essentially any pre-marital relationship. For years I internalised this as the norm, but when I turned sixteen I began to question all the rules about dating, virginity, and modesty. I started to drink secretly, which increased when I left home. I distinctly remember being in a club, texting my mum goodnight whilst downing shots and kissing the guy I was next to.

While I lived away from home, I crushed hard, mainly on white guys possibly out of rebellion , but I never got into any sort of relationship. I found it incomprehensible that I would sleep with someone before getting married, or at least before being with them for years. However, in the last year since I have been back home, my attitude has completely changed. He seemed to love the fact that I had to lie, and always wanted to know the stories I told my parents.

He was half-white, half-Bangladeshi, but his parents were chill, and he told me how great it was that he could share all aspects of his life with them. He looked shocked, as if I were a walking contradiction, fasting by day and drinking by night.

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